Pharrell Williams - Happy
Thank you for this question. It’s probably a good sign! If you’re friends with trueblue people then it’s a great sign, and you’re also probably feeling better about yourself. If your “real world” situation really is awful right now, and your hour with this person feels like a welcome relief, then you’re where you need to be <3
The one therapist I ever had where I felt they were my friend (in an great way) and then in retrospect still feel safe and good about that relationship, was definitely the best therapist i’ve ever had. She made coffee and explained psych ideas to me when i was curious and had cool art and plants and was very affirming. If she made mistakes or upset me, I respected her enough that i was willing to keep pushing and work it out with her or within my heart. Once, while i was on a heavy prescription, or i can’t remember maybe i ran away from home the night before or something, but i went to the session and accidentally fell asleep. and instead of her being like umm, she just quietly made some more coffee and gently cracked the window and opened the blinds letting the warm sun seek me out through leafy houseplant shadows. She let me catch like a full 10 minute power nap, and because she was such a cool person and amazing therapist, this ended up being one of the most beautiful therapeutic experiences and memories of my life. My eyes well up just thinking about it. She was a trueblue person, she felt like “a friend with special knowledge” as John Steinbeck would put say.
On a political-power level I guess, are they your psychiatrist as in you go to them for short appts for prescriptions, but mainly you are in talk therapy with a psychologist-type person? or are they like Frasier, like full-on therapy and Rx style relationship?
Legally or ethically psychiatrists and therapists aren’t allowed to actually be our friends because they have so much power compared to us and many other people in their field/s and in society. Because of this, inpatient or out, I believe in staying focused on myself and my peer and staffworker/nurse, or family (everyday) relationships. If this person really is your psychiatrist, and not your therapist, then idk… it’s all probably okay, but also it’s good to be aware that there are some psych professionals who kind of ego-trip when they think they’ve hit a sweet spot in your treatment, and they honestly just kind of use sessions to chillax - to me that is not okay. It’s fine to be friendly, but I never want to feel like my therapist is just picking my brain for fun, because they like me, and i’m all happy and better now so it’s interesting to them - that leaves me feeling…weird. and out 150$ or whatever. To me, the chilled-out vibe is okay sometimes, to get to know each other, but really it’s like hey i need to go back to talking about my ACTUAL issues/dreams/dosages/whatever. Does that make sense?
Do you want them to feel like a friend? It’s okay if you do, it’s okay if you don’t, all of it is relevant for you therapeutically. Do you wish you could go deeper in therapy? Or to transcend something? Your therapist might be keeping it casual when you are actually longing for a serious therapeutic intervention. If this is true, ask them, because they might just be holding back on accident.
ALSO! It might actually be a sign that it is time to end therapy. Like you have reached this lovely, comfortable place, and the wheel keeps turning, and real healing happened, and you made it happen, and it’s time for you to go out in the world with this new knowledge and self-assurance. And if so, I shed a happy tear for you. Ending therapy during one of life’s chapters is such a poignant powerful time and a wonderful moment to catch the sunset and let yourself smile :)
Feel free to write in more about this. I thought about it for a long time depending on what I thought you might mean. :) Thanks again for this question!! <33
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